Post-divorce life: A perspective from two icons

On Behalf of | Mar 3, 2021 | Divorce |

Divorce can feel like a dirty word. After all, when we get married, we seldom think of divorce. It is one of the happiest times in our lives and — at the time — we fully intended to build our lives together and remain partners “until death do us part.”

However, not all marriages last forever. One item that weighs heavy on the hearts and minds of those thinking about divorce — and those in the midst of a divorce — is what life will be like after a divorce. Recently, two icons, Jill Biden and Kelly Clarkson, discussed just this very topic.

The interview

One thing that First Lady, Jill Biden, and three-time Grammy-winning celebrity-singer, Kelly Clarkson, have in common is divorce. The two recently commiserated about the topic on Ms. Clarkson’s “The Kelly Clarkson Show.” During that talk, the first lady shared advice on healing and finding love again after a divorce.

The divorces

Of course, many are likely away of Ms. Clarkson’s tumultuous divorce as news articles have bombarded us since her filing last June. Others, however, may not know that the first lady was married before marrying the president. Indeed, the first lady went through a divorce in 1975, which is the same year that the president’s brother set them up on a blind date.

The advice

The first lady spoke of her courtship with the president and her reluctance to get married. In fact, it took the president proposing five times before the first lady actually agreed. Ms. Biden assured Ms. Clarkson that it was possible to heal after the heartbreak of divorce. The first lady explained that her mother always said to her that, “Things are going to look better tomorrow.” And, as she looks back on her life now, if she had not gotten divorced, she would have never met or married the president, and neither would have the family that they both so cherish now.

The takeaway

For those going through the divorce process or even thinking of divorce, the pain and heartbreak are real. The fear of never finding love again is real. But the words of our first lady should ring through Georgetown, Texas, resident’s ears: life moves on and things do get better. Divorcees will find love again, and after all is said and done, the only way one can find that new life is by ending their old one.